January 20, 2018

How To Make 2018 Your B*tch

What's up, my sexy snowflakes?! In case you haven't noticed yet, it's 2018. Not only is it 2018, but it's nearly 3 weeks into the new year. How did that happen?!

I don't know about you, but my 2018 got off to quite a shitty start. On the first day of the year, one of my closest relatives passed away, leaving me crying on a bench in front of a Lululemon store in California. A couple days later, I lost my boyfriend in not one, but two airports on our way home from California. Since being home, I've had to deal with more dog/family/health issues than I ever thought possible. I also managed to tear my upper thigh muscle somehow, leaving me slightly crippled for a week. Although the universe thought it was pulling a fast one on me by placing all of these obstacles in between me and my happiness, I feel that I solved each issue thus far in a healthy and cathartic way.

Today, I'm going to teach you how to kick life's ass and handle any situation that may be thrown at you.

You Can't Control the Universe
It's important to acknowledge that most of the things that make us upset are things we can't control. You can control things that involve common sense, such as deciding whether or not to do hard drugs or get in a car with a drunk driver, but when it comes to things like the weather, other people's opinions of you, or the mortality of our being, that's outta your hands. We can't control the universe, but we can control the way we handle the shit that the universe throws at us. Accept the things you can't control, and don't dwell on something that you can't fix. Realize that the weather is gonna do whatever the hell it wants, and you're just gonna have to prepare for it. Realize that someone's negative opinion of you is due to their lack of knowledge about you and their unwillingness to change that, making it their problem and not yours. Realize that the death of a loved one isn't something that can be undone, and that rather than mourning a life without them, you should find a way to honor them and carry their memory with you throughout everyday life. Pick yourself up, give yourself a little hug, and move on. We're all going to be worm food in 80 years anyway!

Learn Your Lesson
Although this sounds like the biggest load of bologna, everything really does happen for a reason. Sometimes the reasons aren't so apparent, and sometimes you have to come up with the reasons yourself. If you and your significant other part ways, figure out what caused the break-up and figure out how to prevent those issues in future relationships. When it comes to the death of a family member, you can use their passing as a wake-up call to be more active in the lives of the people you love, or to be more conscious of your health if they passed away from a certain (potentially hereditary) ailment.

Get Closure
This is my third and final step regarding life events. In order to get over/move on/recover from a life event, you need closure. Closure gives you a sense of reassurance, relief, and resolution of an issue. It's basically what you feel when you watch the final episode of your favorite TV series and learn that every character has tied their loose ends and is sure to live happily ever after. When it comes to the termination of a relationship, you can get closure by being on good terms with your ex and making sure there are no hard feelings between the two of you. When it comes to death, there are a couple ways to get closure. You could receive closure by reassuring yourself that they're death was peaceful, painless, and/or instant. If, unfortunately, that is not the case, you could receive your closure by making sure they are eternally loved and remembered by doing something to honor them. In my case, I chose to keep my great-uncle's memory alive by getting a tattoo for him. We used to call each other 'Great', and now the word will be a comforting reminder that he is always with me. I found that the process of getting this tattoo was very therapeutic and it brought me a sense of peace.

Get It Done
Remember those things you've been putting off for weeks, months, or years? It's time to get 'em done! To-Do lists are a necessity for you this year. I like to start every day with a list of 'inspirations' or things that are motivating me to complete the things on my to-do list. For instance, I might see someone wearing a gorgeous outfit which could prompt me to clear out my wardrobe and revamp my style. Your inspiration could be money, which could encourage you to do your homework so you can graduate and get a good-paying job! Most of the time, my inspirations are people. One of my biggest inspirations is YouTuber, Zoe Sugg. Zoe's success on YouTube has allowed her to release several books, create a ridiculously successful beauty and lifestyle brand, and even be immortalized as a wax figure in London's Madame Tussauds wax museum. The success Zoe and has had from pursuing her passion is what pushes me every day to create awesome, meaningful content. Who or what inspires you? Write them down and use them as motivation to complete your to-do list!

Face Your Fears
Now that you've conquered sadness and procrastination, it's time to conquer your fears. This year, I want you to do something that scares you. These things could be anything from telling someone how you truly feel to going bungee jumping. This is going to be a challenge for me, as I'm too scared to ask for a menu to look at while waiting for a table to open up in a restaurant. (If the restaurant is busy I wanna order as soon as possible, not wait even longer!) I'm also too scared to ask a stranger if I can pet their dog, which sucks because I love dogs more than anything. This year I'm gonna conquer those fears and many more!

Clean Your Room
I never said these steps were gonna be fun! I cannot stress to you the importance of a clean living space to a clear mind. Give your bedroom a deep clean, starting from the inside and working your way out. Begin by clearing out your closet, getting rid of any clothes that you know you're never gonna wear. Next, clear out your desk drawers and your nightstand. Once you've cleaned out every closet and drawer in your room, move onto the main space. Cleaning from the inside and working your way out prevents you from carrying any mess over into a freshly cleaned section of your living space.

We All Die
This 'step' isn't meant to scare you, but instead to make you re-evaluate your priorities. No matter what happens throughout your lifetime, we all know how it's going to end. Frankly, we are born to die. So don't take life too seriously! Stop occupying your mind space with stress and negativity and start having fun! It can be so easy to get caught up in the stress of everyday life; exams, a feud with a co-worker, someone's opinion of you. I'm not telling you to stop caring about things, but if it wouldn't matter in 10 years, it shouldn't matter now. 

Take Your Vitamins
Invest in a quality multivitamin and take one every day as a part of your routine. You may not be able to feel the difference right away, but the act of taking a multivitamin to better yourself will automatically make you feel better. While we're at it, I'd recommend taking biotin for your skin, hair, and nails!

That's all of the sage wisdom I have for today! I hope this post has helped you in some way, or that it was at least a tiny bit entertaining. In the words of Pitbull, "Everyday above ground is a great day; remember that."

Jordan x